Knot just friends......

Tying the knot with your best friend may sound unrealistic and filmy; After Hours tells you more about this wonderful relation

Shehzad Poonawalla

He keeps your deepest secrets. She laughs at your silly jokes. Both of you share each others joys and sorrows, triumphs and defeats. The idea that best friends can fall in love and make the relationship work is more common in reel than in real life. Look at Chandler and Monica in Friends or Sally and Harry in the When Harry Met Sally. Although this sounds romantic and mushy, is it realistic? “Friendship perhaps is the best bond one can have but falling in love with your best friend can be a tricky proposition. You dont know if he loves you too and it involves the risk of ruining a good friendship,” says student Preeti Sahay. Entrepreneur Vishal Trivedi, who was dating his best friend says, “Being best friends with a girl and then dating her are completely different things. Suddenly you realise that you cannot be as open as before and the possessive streak comes in too.” Agreeing with Vishal, model Shriya Kishore says, “Any relationship requires maturity but more so in case of best friends, because you know intimate details about each others past. One has to be careful not to mention anything in the present relationship or you may end up hurting and losing both, your lover and your best friend.” Jatin and Ushma Agarwal, are one of these, who have been best friends for fifteen years and are happily married now. Ushma and her twin Urvi met Jatin at an engineering college and soon the trio formed their own little group. While Jatin is the hardcore party animal who took each day as it came, Ushma was totally the opposite. In fact, Urvi and Jatin got along much better than they ever did. “But it was during Urvis wedding that we started feeling a void and really discovered each others friendship,” says Jatin. “Although, everyone else thought we were meant for each other, the idea of walking down the aisle with my best friend had never crossed my mind,” says Ushma. But as time passed their friendship blossomed into love and in December 2006 they tied the knot. And have the equations changed since then? “Well, not really. We are still best friends who love each other. He loves adventure sports and music. I love fashion and family affairs. So we do a bit of everything,” says Ushma, who feels that the recent blockbuster Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na is quite similar to her story. Being best buddies has been an advantage for the duo. They know everything about each other and find it easier to communicate. They just love each others company yet they are conscious about intruding on each others private space. And isnt it this compatibility between friends that everyone looks for in a relationship too? “It sure is. I wanted someone who would plan my future and take care of my home and who better to do it than my best friend.”